Adjusting to marriage

Adjusting to marriage

There are the kinds of adjustment that a newly married people must make a happy marriage life. They faced the problems by a stranger in a new culture. they need to understand what are the major adjustment, how to adjust their conflict of opinions. There are four important factors that may adjust the process of the marriage life; professional adjustment, social adjustment, personal adjustment and emotional adjustment.

First, professional adjustment being controlled their time in the office all day must share and change. For example, it's time to finish work, they want to leave at the office ASAP. According to their temper, they have the different ways to overcome this problem; to go out silently without the word " See you tomorrow", to hurry out like being some problems to their home, to leave fairy to say " Go back home ahead".

Second, social adjustment need to arrange their relationship with friends, relatives, and colleagues. The less to meet to attend, the more to meet their relative. For example, they must to attend the ceremony their relative's wedding instead of the friend's birthday.

Third, personal adjustment need to make lots of efforts each other. As it were, before they married, all of the habit is no problem. But they to make happy their home, should to take after their partner in habit. For instance, as soon as wake up read the newspaper for ten or fifteen minutes in the bathroom every morning. they are busy together every morning, if one stay in the bathroom, the partner shouldn't use bathroom and then they should adjust the times. in addition to the detail adjustment, one sleep always on the bed, in the opposite, the other sleep on the floor of a room.

Finally, it is most difficult to adjust emotional difference. Before married, they were angry and complain whenever it happen some problems and to quit their office. But after married, they have a family responsibility and put up with the situation.

Most of married people realized that they adjust their profession, sociality, personality and emotion according to these factors. In fact, these changes are similar to make gradual progress together. To make their sweet home, they should accept the variation of four factors joyfully.